Indi and Rani Dealing with Semi-Duality

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Today, Rani and I took Jung-Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) tests, a psychometric questionnaire designed to identify certain psychological differences according to the typological theories of Carl Gustav Jung, and we found out that:

-I am an ENFJ (Extraversion, iNtuition, Feeling, Judging)
-Rani is an INTJ (Introversion, iNtuition, Thinking, Judging)

So, what does it all mean in our relationship?*

Between Rani and I, we have both been experiencing Semi-Duality without fail since September 2002. It means we as life partners usually have no problems in understanding each other or each other's objectives, at least when these objectives are only on paper. When it comes to fulfilling joint plans, we often fail to co-operate. I (the extrovert partner) hardly listens to the Rani (the introvert partner), concentrating more on the sound of my own voice. However, Rani (the introvert partner) does not get upset about this and she often seems to find a way to adapt to it. We Semi-Duals usually have many topics for conversation and these conversations do not seem to be boring. *If you don't believe me, ask Yodhi or our friends/family!

As a Semi-Dual couple, can show interest in each other, which is multiplied if in addition we find each other attractive (*Note: I think Rani is one hot mama!). However, when we feel like we are half way to complete understanding, one of us usually does something, not deliberately of course, that ruins all established harmony putting us both right back to where we started. This is how incomplete Duality, like us, manifests itself.

As Semi-Duality partners, we cannot stay upset with each other for a long time. After I (or Rani) have calmed down, we attempt to get closer to each other again which unfortunately leads to another stumble. For the observer, these relations may seem really passionate and loving (which is true!). Relations of Semi-Duality can be compared with the moth and the flame.

If not taken seriously, our relationship can produce a little periodical shaking, keeping the partners "awake". Relations of Semi-Duality are also full of contrasts: from being happy to see each other again to sudden disappointment and bewilderment.

Dear Readers,.... isn't exciting? :)

*adapted from "Complete relationship chart between MBTI types".



You guys are really great couple. Any tips for youngsters to find a good partner?? hehe...


I love you both very much.

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